In Defense of Beauty

Use one word to describe any of the following people: Christie Brinkley, Halle Berry, Marilyn Monroe, Raquel Welsh, or Sophia Loren. The number one answer will always be “beautiful.” This makes us all judges and for this we feel we have the right to also judge how they become or stay beautiful as they age. Everyone has their own sense of how far is acceptable to go to maintain or attain beauty, and, of course, there are those among us who impose their views on others. A friend innocently posted an article on their Facebook page announcing Christie Brinkley’s partnership with  Merz in which Christie discussed certain aesthetic treatments she’d chosen to have, using their products of course.  I wish I could say I was shocked by some of the vicious and woefully uninformed comments that followed. I won’t mention them here, because they are not deserving of repeat, but you can probably guess what they were. It was especially upsetting to see this since I had the pleasure of having worked with Christie early on on her skin care line and found her to be not only stunningly beautiful but also one of the nicest people I’ve met and a great mom to boot! Sure she has great DNA but you don’t get to where she is, especially at her age, without also being smart and working very hard.

Hardest on ourselves vs. others

In some cases, we are hardest on ourselves. In others, we impose our views on those around us, especially celebrities and models. There are a few women who beat the system and are recognized and celebrated for their beauty even as they age. My hope is they will set the tone for the rest of us. One example that comes to mind is Jane Fonda who looks beautiful for any age, and just like herself, even if she’s had the help of some very talented aesthetic physicians along the way. I met her once. Ok, not actually met, but used to see her way back years ago in the late 1970’s at a gym called the Manhattan Cardiac Institute. It was in the time before there was a gym on every corner. You were assigned a trainer and needed a doctor’s note to attend.

I was there because my dad wanted me to lose weight and Jane was probably there because it was the best place in town, known for no-nonsense, intense work outs. Jane was on the mat next to me, stretching and doing our standard 100 sit-up warm ups, and then she went to work with her trainer and I went with mine. I was 17, she was… not. I couldn’t help but notice her workout kicked my workout’s butt! She also took great care of herself over the years and so have most, if not all, of the women you see who look great as they age.

Aging has its challenges

Up to 90% of how your skin ages is from sun exposure and other lifestyle choices  you’ve made over the years. The skin thins, discolors and wrinkles and genetics also kick in and kick out hormones of youth and reproductive potential. Thick flowing hair thins and grays. The brows and corners of the mouth drop and lines and wrinkles settle in. As words on paper, that doesn’t conjure up the ideal image of beauty. To make matters worse, most of us did not win the DNA beauty-queen lottery at birth, but we all have beauty and it’s normal to want to make the most of it and to hang on to what we have. Sadly, it’s sometimes even harder for those very few who did win the genetic beauty-lottery. Many of these women end up being commoditized and unable to see their own beauty because it’s always defined in comparison to others and is eventually in comparison to a younger version of themselves.

Beauty in Aging

Embracing aging does not mean letting your hair go gray or avoiding aesthetic treatments any more than It means letting go of a healthy lifestyle, including proper diet and exercise, sleep and sex. There is also no aesthetic treatment that will recreate the beauty of a life fulfilled, but it can enhance and more accurately reflect it.

Beauty and the word “beautiful” change as we age and take on richer meaning as the years add on.

There is no greater beauty than the beauty of a life lived, love had, love and loss, gratitude and inner peace and of a satisfaction that you made it this far and are still here to tell the tale.

For many women, aesthetic treatments help them look as good as they feel, or sometimes as good as they want to feel.  Treatments can help repair the damage of indiscretions from earlier years when the lack of sunscreen and sleep may have seemed like a small price to pay for a good time at the time, but accelerated the aging process and added artificial and distracting layers to aging skin years later. 

Bottom Line: it’s no one’s business what you or anyone else does, or how much you choose to tell or not to tell. You have options – enjoy what you see or turn the page.

Dr. Day Approved Summer Skin Tips

 

  1. DO exfoliate gently to decongest and enhance the way your skincare works for you. Summer sun is dehydrating which can actually compromise the way your body is designed to protect you from its damaging rays. The right kind of exfoliation will enhance your skin’s barrier function while also readying it for medical-grade skincare ingredients that keep you well defended.

  2. Hydrate with light moisturizing gels and serums that leave the skin feeling supple, not sticky. Most of us need to rethink our lotions and potions in the summer to avoid feeling like an oil-stick and subsequently becoming congested. Even dry skins that revel in the warm and humid weather may benefit from a lighter formulation. Some of our office favorites are: SkinCeuticals H.A. IntensifierSkinMedica HA5 and MDRejuvena Pore Perfecting Complex.

  3. Apply antioxidant serums daily to protect your skin from the season’s stronger UVA/UVB/Infrared rays and more concentrated air pollution and also nightly to repair and restore while you sleep. Try SkinCeuticals Phloretin CF GelSkinCeuticals Resveratrol BE, or SkinMedica TNS Essential Serum
  4. Apply a broad-spectrum SPF 30 or higher every morning and reapply every 2-3 hours during the day into the early evening. Remember your neck, chest, ears, back, shoulders, arms, and legs. If applying SPF to your body daily seems cumbersome, use a moisturizing formula before you get dressed in the morning in place of your regular lotion and be sure to have a travel tube in your purse for when you’re on the go. It’s worth it! We lovePCASkin Weightless Protection Broad Spectrum SPF 45 and Colorescience Sunforgettable SPF 50.
  5. Wear wide-brimmed hats and sunglasses with a UV rating, avoid long exposure during peak sun hours from 10am-2 pm and try to walk on the shady side of the street as often as possible.

  6. Drink plenty of water and eat your fruits and vegetables. Not only is your skin likely to become dehydrated in the sun, but so is the rest of you! Drink 8-10 glasses of water daily and infuse it with lemons, herbs and fruit to activate its potency and absorption. For the best defense, take Heliocare every day.

  1. Trust the experts! We are here to guide you to the best products and cleansing treatments to ensure you keep your skin healthy and beautiful for life!

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Excellent Sun-Friendly In-Office Treatments

Botox Injections

smooth away those fine lines you got from squinting at the sun’s reflection off the water

Fillers that restore and define cheeks, chin and jawline

a must for avoiding bad angles in friends’ photos

Lip Injections

keep your pout ready for kissing and sipping rosé

Vaginal Rejuvenation and Non-Surgical Breast Lift

make your summer even hotter….

Oxygenating Facial Treatments

detoxify and enhance luminosity in sluggish skin

Clear and Brilliant- Gentle Laser Resurfacing

decongest, slow down oil production and degunk buildup

Acne Treatments

soothe and calm skin that doesn’t like the heat and humidity much

Ultherapy:
for the very best non-invasive FDA-approved Skin Tightening and Skin Lifting

(We are one of the TOP 3 providers of Ultherapy in the nation!)

Cellulite Treatments

smooth away lumps and bumps and wear those new bikini bottoms with pride